Child discipline is a challenge when child behavior problems rear their head.
Matters become much worse when the child has Dyslexia and ADHD -- they
may not understand what you are saying through no fault of your own.
As parents, we made tons of mistakes, when we assumed our two kids with
Dyslexia and ADHD understood what we were saying and could respond
appropriately.
In our first article in this series of Child Discipline, Child Behavior Problems, Dyslexia and ADHD we highlighted the 3 key choices:
- Accept reality - and do the best you can
- Work with the issues individually and do your best
- Help your child to be Outrageously Successful with an integrated and concerted effort
This
article will focus on Assessing for Outrageous Success, where Child
Discipline, Child Behavior Problems, Dyslexia, and ADHD are all
potential challenges.
The
following 7 questions will really help you to understand your child and
to chart a course for their Pathway to Outrageous Success
- Does your child learn best when they see and experience information?
- Does your child have difficulty paying attention to that which is boring or frustrating?
- Does your child skip words and lines when reading?
- Do child
behavior problems and child discipline challenges occur much more
frequently after your child has eaten certain foods or when they are
tired and/or hungry?
- Do you tend to use the words don't and can't when giving your child directions?
- Does your spouse or you lose your temper when your child misbehaves?
- Do you work with a professional who understands Child Behavior Problems, Child Discipline, Dyslexia and ADHD?
When
a person learns best when they see and experience information, it is
important to use more visuals and experiential lessons versus words.
If your child has ADHD and/or has difficulty paying attention, find ways to help them - pills do not teach skills.
Visual processing problems often result in avoidance behavior -- take note of this.
Child
behavior problems and child discipline challenges often have their root
causes in diet, hunger, thirst or being tired -- journal when
challenges occur.
Ask
your spouse if you tend to use the words don't and can't. In the next
article we will discuss how these words impact kids and why and how
changes in words will help.
Losing one's temper can make child behavior problems and child discipline challenges spin out of control.
The
biggest changes occur when you know how your child learns best; what
causes the challenges; and how to respond differently. The right
professionals can help.
In the next article we will discuss setting Challenging Goals.
Mark Halpert is a recovering Screamaholic and his wife
Mira developed and directs the 3D Learner Program (R) in Boca Raton --
for more information go to Parents Make The Difference, Speeches on
"Dyslexia, ADHD, Child Behavior Problems and Child Discipline", and
call Mark and Mira at 561-361-7495